If you are experiencing stress, depression, anxiety, bereavement, or any other trauma-related issue and need a helping hand, Wellbeing Therapy provides a confidential, face-to-face environment where you can address these issues in your own way. I am an accredited counsellor and psychotherapist in Weybridge and Chertsey, Surrey who works collaboratively with you to look at your life and discover the right path for you, as opposed to offering advice or solutions. My role is to act as your experienced, reliable supportive guide as you find the answers within yourself and determine a personalised, holistic way of coping effectively throughout your life.
Keep reading for a more detailed breakdown of the different issues I can help with as a counsellor and psychotherapist in Weybridge and Chertsey, Surrey.
Depression shows up in different ways for different people. You might be experiencing feelings of lethargy, low self-esteem, sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, or even suicidal thoughts. These feelings stem from a process of pushing down difficult emotions, which leads to a sense of being burdened and causes a negative, unmotivated outlook on life. Together, and in a way that makes sense to you, we will work to move past these negative thought patterns and identify the catalyst for your depression. By understanding its role in your life and how it shows up in your daily thinking, we can then start to develop strategies for managing depressive symptoms and preventing them from affecting you in the future.
Anxiety is more than just a psychological process; it is something you hold actively in your body, leading to a constant sense of internal unease and a lack of inner peace. When we experience past trauma, the stress of that moment becomes stored in our body, laying the foundation for feelings of anxiety later in life. As a result, our work together will involve identifying and engaging with these unexpressed emotions that you hold inside yourself, ahead of developing a bespoke and holistic way of shifting this trauma from your body.
“Trauma is not what happens to you; trauma is what happens inside you.”
- Gabor Mate
Everyone experiences trauma in one way or another. An external event – an angry home life, the passing of a loved one, neglect, physical abuse, etc. – causes an internal wound that leads to a certain way of perceiving yourself and other people, laying a template for how we think and behave in the future. This trauma causes us to become disconnected from our authentic selves and our gut feelings, leading to challenging emotions (anxiety, depression, etc.) that become triggered by events that remind us of the original trauma. Such a process often causes maladaptive behaviours such as addiction and eating disorders, making our situation worse. In a holistic way, we will engage with the way trauma affects your life and, over time, develop techniques for preventing it from influencing your behaviour and thoughts on a daily basis.
I approach each couple on their own unique terms, taking time to learn about the specific situation at hand before working with both parties to come up with a counselling plan that goes to the root of their issues. We will look at the relationship as a whole, exploring certain difficulties and looking at how a negative relationship dynamic is affected by past trauma. By drawing on a number of different therapeutic techniques, I help couples understand where triggers come from, which in turn improves communication, reduces conflict, and rebuilds trust.
Experiencing bereavement and loss is a challenging process, and doing it alone makes it harder. Once a period of grief has passed, it can be extremely helpful to have a private, judgement-free space in which to vocalise difficult feelings in a way that feels right for you. I will work with you to talk through your grief, which can be manifested in many ways – such as anger, guilt, denial, depression, or even numbness. Our goal will be to help you explore these emotions in a healthy, open way, with a view towards ultimately moving towards a place of acceptance.